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Welcome to Sweden

San-Maré Raubenheimer and her husband Gideon have been living in Sweden since 2012.  They are the proud parents of two beautiful girls, Anje 3 and Sofia 1.

San-maré is an artist by trade, but has been a stay-at-home mom since Anje was born.  Let’s meet the the Raubenheimers!

    Button-01WHAT IS THE BEST THING ABOUT LIVING IN MALMÖ?

 

It’s hard to pick one specific thing, because there are so many reasons we love living here. But for me, I love living in a city where I discover and learn new things every day; where I am inspired by the people and their way of life, their architecture, design and by nature.

 

 

    Button-01HOW DOES RAISING CHILDREN IN SWEDEN DIFFER FROM SOUTH AFRICA?

 

Sweden has amazing parental benefits, which South Africa unfortunately lacks. For instance, each parent receives 240 days paid parental leave. This makes it possible for a child to be at home with a parent for nearly the first year and a half of his or her life. After that they usually start going to a  daycare center. Since Sweden is a worldleader in gender, men and women often both have careers. They then also share their parental duties. It is not uncommon to see a father on paternity leave for six months taking his baby for a stroll or to the park.

Also, in Sweden, any service that involves human labour is extremely expensive. Therefore, hiring nannies or babysitters are reserved only for extremely special occasions. So as a parent, taking some “me-time” is a luxury. The result is that families spend a lot of time together; going on outings and socialising as a family.

Swedish weather definitely also influences the way in which children are raised. Here children will play outside, even if it rains lightly or even when it’s snowing.

 

 

    Button-01WHAT IS THE ONE THING YOU DO THERE THAT YOU WOULD NEVER DO HERE?

 

Here I can go anywhere, any time of the day or night and feel safe. I can take public transport at night and walk through the city by myself without having to look over my shoulder or feel scared.

 

 

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Fortunately,  most Swedes can speak English, even if it’s on a basic level. But when we just arrived, I used google translate a lot because the labels on nearly all products, notices and billboards are in Swedish. So I wasn’t always sure of what exactly I was buying in the grocery store or what the cooking instructions were until I translated it. But we quickly picked up on some keywords and although we can’t speak it, we understand some. I am planning on taking a Swedish course as soon as Sofia starts daycare next year.

 

 

    Button-01DESCRIBE THE TYPICAL SWEDISH MOTHER

 

My impression of the typical Swedish mother is that she is very ambitious. Most women have full-time careers while being a mother. It is actually rather frowned upon to be a stay-at-home mom in Sweden. So the norm is for mothers to work since equality is such a high priority, and because of the excellent parental benefits that the country offers. Swedish mothers are also quite environmentally conscious. There is a growing tendancy to use products that are environmentally friendly, organic and locally produced.

 

 

    Button-01DESCRIBE A TYPICAL DAY IN YOUR LIFE

 

Every single day starts off with us waking up to Anje singing! We then get up and prepare for school or whatever we have planned for the day. On Anje’s school days, I drop her off at 8:30, after which Sofia and I usually run a few errands in town, visit a friend or go home to do some cleaning or laundry. I then fetch her at 1:30. In the afternoon we will either go for a walk on the farms surrounding our house (which can take a while if it has rained and thereare muddy puddles for Anje to jump in – this is her absolute favourite activity) or just play around the house or in the garden weather permitting. On the days that she does not go to school, we will either go on an outing, like visiting a friend, the park or the library or we’ll just stay home so that I can do some household chores and then take a walk at some point during the day. We also often have friends coming over for fika (this is the  Swedish word for drinking coffee and eating some sort of cake or anything sweet).

 

    Button-01WHAT DO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY DO FOR FUN?

 

We often take the kids to a playpark. Malmö has several amazing outdoor and indoor parks for kids. We also love going for walks, visiting friends or taking a drive on a weekend to explore other parts of Sweden. During summer we go to the beach or have a picnic as we try to spend every possible moment outside in the sun.

    Button-01WHAT DO YOU MISS THE MOST ABOUT HOME?

 

Definitely family.

Quickfire Quiz

 

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   Favourite place in Malmö to eat with your kids:

Via Napoli, an Italian restaurant that used to be a few meters from our previous              apartment.

 

Button-01   Favourite places to shop for your kids:

I shop for basics at H&M and Lindex and for special items at KappAhl.   I love buying toys at local flea markets as one can find beautiful vintage toys at good prices.

 

Button-01   Favourite places to go to play with your kids:

Leo’s Lekland, which a very popular indoor playpark in Malmö.   There is also a great outdoor playpark in Staffanstorp, which we visit when the weather allows it.

 

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   Any good museums:

Tekniska Museet (the technical museum) in Malmö is great for kids with various acvtivities and play areas.

 

 

 

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  • Reply Le Zette February 3, 2015 at 4:01 pm

    Die foto’s is pragtig, ‘n baie besonderse familie.

  • Reply Annelie van der Westhuyzen February 3, 2015 at 8:31 am

    Aaaah Sanna! Ek mis julle nou sommer baie! Wat n goeie artikel. Lus om te kom kuier xxx

    • Reply San-Mare Raubenheimer February 3, 2015 at 8:32 pm

      Ja Annelie, kom kuier!!!!!! Mis julle ook!

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